What I Need You to Know, Caleb

Screen Shot 2013-04-06 at 4.03.56 PMDear Caleb,

Before your brother was born, your dad and I led very similar lives. We met in college and each started working with an accounting firm after we graduated. We spent years working long hours and advancing our careers.

Then Colin was born.

Dad continued to work, and I spent my days with Colin. Then you and Colin. Then you, Colin and Lila.

That’s what you’ve always known. You’ve always known me to be the anchor at home because Dad’s schedule is unpredictable. It isn’t unusual for Dad not to know where in the country he will be two days before he needs to be there.

Dad’s here helping in the house a lot. He coaches all your sports. He cooks many meals, he reads with you guys, plays games and all that other stuff. But he’s also got a demanding job that means there are lots of nights with just the four of us at dinner and many mornings where it’s just the four of us getting ready for our days.

There are many things that you, Colin and Lila do primarily with me since I’m the one who is always here. One of those things is managing your diabetes. Whether it’s just deciding on what to do with a blood sugar or prepping your gear each day or managing things at school, it’s mostly just you and me. Dad helps here and there, but you and I are the team when it comes to diabetes.

There is something that I need you to know, Caleb. Your dad has always been there for you to support you and whatever has come your way because of diabetes. Always.

IMG_2799He was the one doing most of the overnight checks in the early weeks. He gave you as many shots as I did when you were first diagnosed. It was a challenging time for all of us. So much had changed and none of us knew where we fit in this new normal we were trying to create. The distinction in our roles in your diabetes care developed over time out of necessity. I was here at home all the time and Dad was not. It’s just that simple.

What I need you to know, Caleb, is that when times became very challenging for us relative to diabetes when you were nine, your dad was there fighting for you as fiercely as I have ever seen him fight for anything. He spent countless hours working to protect you, despite the demands of his job. Nothing was more important to him. Things were hard for us, Caleb. But your dad remained steadfast in his defense of you. I could not have gotten through that time without him and his focus and determination to care for you. You, Colin and Lila mean more to him than anything else in this world. If he could move heaven and earth to protect you, he would.

When you grow up, you will likely look back on your childhood and think of me as the person who cared for your diabetes. For the most part I did. But what I need you to know, Caleb, is that Dad was always there too.

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“He’s Yours for a Reason” | #dsma Guest Post & #SibsofDKids

I’m honored to be a guest blogger at Diabetes Social Media Advocacy, a venture that Cherise created and moderates and of which I have the privilege of being an advisory board member.

As luck would have it, it coincides with the Sibs of D Kids event that Sherry and Lexi put together. One of the points of my post is how I try to balance my relationships with each of my children as equally as I can.

So I ask that you visit me over at DSMA to read about the inspiration behind my Twitter handle, Colcalli: Caleb and his D-Sibs, Colin and Lila.

Have a fun Sibs of D Kids day!!

Jamie Oliver Mentions Colin | Food Revolution Update

People on Jamie Oliver’s team heard about Colin and his mini Food Revolution.  What a thrill to hear Jamie kick off his most recent newsletter message with a shout out to Colin!  If you haven’t seen it, Colin’s picture is embedded smack dab in the middle of the newsletter (okay, well, more toward the bottom).

Thank you Jamie Oliver.  You made “this little ten year old” so very proud!

And heartfelt thanks to all who came by to read Colin’s story and leave comments.  Your encouragement and support mean a great deal not only to Colin, but also to me, his mom.

Here’s Jamie’s shout out:

Part of Jamie’s appeal is his sincere passion for making a difference.  If there’s anyone out there who doubts that he’s the real deal, I share one of the messages I received directly from him:

Jamie, you sir are a top man.  Thank you for all that you are doing.  To say that you are an inspiration hardly captures the impact you have had on my family.

The focus of this blog is my other son, Caleb and his life with type 1 diabetes.  I started this Food Revolution series saying it had little to do with diabetes.  But the reality is that making healthy food choices, although important for all people, really makes a difference in managing blood sugars.  Jamie’s message not only helps me as a parent that wants to encourage good eating habits for all my children, but also as the parent of a child with type 1 diabetes who, at times, can feel guilty that perhaps I let diabetes influence my decisions.  With Jamie’s encouragement, I know that the decisions I make for my children are what I would have made, or at least should have made, even if I wasn’t a parent of a KWD.  I bet that’s a bi-product that Jamie hadn’t planned.

Colin’s Food Revolution | Part 1: Flash Mob

Colin’s Food Revolution | Part 2: Pass It On

Colin’s Food Revolution | Part 3: The School Meeting

Colin’s Food Revolution | Part 3: The School Meeting

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The final installment of this series (for now) is about Colin’s Food Revolution meeting at school. Over the past few months, Colin has been working with someone else who feels as strongly about the food options offered to students: Mrs. … Continue reading

Colin’s Food Revolution | Part 2: Pass It On

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When Colin originally decided to have a Food Revolution theme to his birthday party, the plan was little more than to serve all healthy, made from scratch foods.  Soon after, the Flash Mob idea started to take shape.  Then I … Continue reading